But it wasn’t funny. Sarcasm rarely is. The word sarcasm comes from the ancient Greek word sarkázein, which meant “to tear flesh.” Having said that, sarcasm isn’t cute and there’s no place for it on a date. Most of the time it will be interpreted as bad middos. Rather, pay attention to the joys in your life and to the greatness of people – including yourself!
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If you’re a sarcastic kinda guy then don’t hide it on the date, or you might find out after it’s to late that she can’t handle it.
Sarcasm isn’t cute and there’s no place for it on a date… Rather, pay attention to the joys in your life and to the greatness of people – including yourself!
When informed of this piece of advice, one Lakewood bachur told reporters somewhat sarcastically: “If anyone can locate the joys in my life and the greatness in me, I’ll pay attention to these wonderful middos that I have. But I’ve been calling Lost & Found every day for the last 5 years, and, so far, no one has found any joy or greatness with my name on it. So, good luck with that one.”
“I’m still hoping to find some joy and greatness in the shiduch I’m going out with right now,” he said rather sardonically. “I even promised her that I’ll propose to her the moment I find even a scintilla of joy and greatness in her. But she slammed the car door on my face and left in a huff.”
“Thats the problem with these girls,” he said. They can’t even find a little bit of joy in a simple wisecrack.”
“I’ll have to address that problem directly with this girl” he said, “as soon as she gets back to me and schedules another date with me.”
“And that’s another problem with her,” he said, “she’s a procrastinator. It’s been 7 months since our last date, and she still hasn’t gotten back to me, or contacted the shadchan.”
“One thing I can tell you, I’m not going to wait forever,” he added. “Someone needs to tell her that she can’t put this thing off too much longer, otherwise I’ll find a girl that truly enjoys a good-hearted wisecrack that aimed directly at her heart and soul.”
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