Lakewood is a beautiful place with so many organizations and individuals who give up their lives to help others.
I am starting this letter with a request. It is taking me a lot of courage to write this letter, as it is very personal, so I ask that those who feel the need to knock every letter writer to for once hold in their insensitive comments.
Hashem has blessed us with a child a few years ago. BH he is adorable and we love him to no end. Since he was born and continued to develop, it became very obvious that something is a little off.
After many tests and much money spent on evaluations etc., we are still not totally clear. BH he is a healthy normal child, and we can’t thank Hashem enough for that. We can’t begin to imagine the pain and suffering of those who whose children are ill or are special needs.
But our child has issues, for now the therapists call it severe add/adhd, with a host of sensory issues. He needs to be watched almost 24 hours a day, that he does not do anything dangerous / break something / run out of the house / hurt another child, or just simply go on a destructive rampage. Again, I am not daring to compare them to any children with real issues r”l, but to put it mildly, it puts a great strain on us. And of course the other children suffer, and unfortunately the younger ones learn from the negative behaviors.
My wife is a tzadekes, and she devotes her entire life to him, caring for him, getting him therapies, trying to learn new techniques. To the neighbors, we are probably just the dysfunctional family of the block, but I can testify to the hours and time my wife puts in, many times to just be undone right afterwards by our adorable child.
The reason I am writing, is to find out if there is any sort of support group of parents of such children already in place. I feel that for my wife the three most important things she needs would be: 1) A support group. 2) A mother’s helper. 3) A parenting counselor for such children.
If anyone has anything to share, if they can please contact us at [email protected]
Thank you and tizke lemitzvos.
Thank you to the Scoop for all you do.
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