Now before you click away in disgust, allow me just a few short words.
In the last few days my family and I have been shamed, hurt, embarrassed and accused. We have been subject to judgement of the very worst kind wherever we have gone. My children have suffered tremendously at the hands of their schools, their friends and teachers.
Can you find it in your heart to believe that I really do care about my children? That as a result of my family history and extensive personal research I have decided that vaccines are not the right choice for our family?
You might be surprised to know that yes, we are very aware that by not vaccinating we are challenging the concept of ‘herd immunity’. We also realize your very real worry that we are putting your children at risk. Believe me if you will. We care about the community, we care about your children. And we would never, in any way, do something with the belief that it would help our children at the expense of yours. I know it’s hard to believe, but with the support of many doctors and medical professionals the world over, we are confident that what we are doing poses absolutely no risk to you or your family.
Does the fact that you disagree with my beliefs on this matter justify throwing all basic human decency to the wind?
Do the laws in the Torah not apply to your fellow sisters and brothers simply because you don’t like what they are doing?
Have you thought about what you are transgressing?
Hamalbin pnei chaveiro b’rabim?
Hating another Jew?
And what about the requirement to judge every Yid l’caf zchus?
Contrary to popular belief, we know, and we really understand, that you are concerned about your family’s welfare and safety. The US Center for Disease Control concerns itself first and foremost with the health and safety of the public. And they have deemed it totally safe for our children to attend schools with other children. The Ocean County Department of Health, which is our local health authority, has also deemed it so. Are you trying to be holier than the Pope? Do we deserve to be thrown into the streets in a manner worse than would ever be done to a child addicted to the internet or to drugs? Or a child with an iphone watching movies and negatively impacting other children?
For what reason do our children not deserve to go to school and learn together with their friends?
Does my family need to walk around hanging our heads and avoiding anyone we know for fear of being bullied and abused? Is there no din v’cheshbon in this world?
Is there some clause in the Torah with regard to these halachos that we are not aware of which excludes people who don’t vaccinate? Why, oh why are so many Rabbonim remaining silent in the face of all this terrible behavior? Why are schools suddenly so quiet in the face of all the bullying directed at our children?
Is this just some sort of punishment you feel we deserve for daring to have a different view?
I promise you with all my heart and soul. And I speak for all my friends who are like me.
We are fine, ehrlich, frum families. We are aiming to do ratzon Hashem. We love our children. We care about them. And as their parents we are making the decisions that we feel are right for them. I’m truly sorry that you feel we are misguided.
But until someone explains to me how that gives you the right to treat us the way we are being treated, I remain hurt, shamed, and I have lost faith in humanity.
A fellow Jew, who doesn’t vaccinate
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