You have to LISTEN to what your date is saying. Catch the nuances, tune into the inflections. Seek to understand his/her perspective. Seek to understand the person facing you. Allow the cogs in your brain to relax instead of furiously working to formulate a response to them, or how to present the next topic of discussion. Not only will you get to know your date better, but when you genuinely listen, your date will feel recognized and acknowledged.
—————————–
Mrs. SC Krupenia is a trusted shadchan and dating coach with over twenty years experience. She works with both girls and boys and conducts educational workshops on productive dating. She works closely with many shadchanim and Rabbonim. She is available for private consultation. She can be reached at [email protected].