There is a large and worthy ongoing movement to have women (and men) block their phones from having internet access. Many say that once they either switched to flip phones or at least blocked or deleted various apps from their smartphones they have been much happier, their relationships have improved, and their children are not at risk of seeing the filth that exists on the internet.
All of it is commendable, but even so, I will not downgrade to a flip phone, nor will I delete every app that would could be considered not absolutely necessary. I’m not happy about it, but it is the only thing that makes sense for me, and if anyone has a better solution, I would love to know what it is.
It comes down to one simple thing: finances. I am not wealthy. My husband and I both work long, hard hours to make ends meet and ensure that our children can live comfortably without worrying that we can’t afford to buy them nice clothing and decent food. My children didn’t ask to be a part of my family, they were just put there, and I believe that the least I can do is give them as comfortable a life as I can manage.
That being said, I simply cannot afford the prices in Lakewood anymore. Just as an example – I had a baby a few months back. I went shopping for clothing in several local stores and my eyes nearly bulged out of my head. $50 for a single baby outfit that will fit for maybe 2 months? And I need to get like 10 pairs of this stuff! $500 for two months of clothing, and that doesn’t even include formula, diapers, and so on, nor does it include the financial obligations I have of making sure my other children are clothed, fed, and educated!
So, what do I do? I have apps on my phone of affordable companies (think GAP, Zara, H&M, etc.) from which I can shop and get my kids nice, comfortable clothing that they won’t be embarrassed walking around in.
You might argue that I can just walk around those same stores and find nice clothing without browsing for them on the internet, but like I said, I work long and hard hours. My time with my kids is already far less than what I wish it would be. Now I should cut down quality time with my kids even more? I don’t think so.
Of course, my phone has a lock on it and the web browser is disabled. But no, I won’t delete those shopping apps from my phone.
I can’t subject my finances to getting depleted for the sake of not having an internet connection on my phone. Maybe you can afford it, but I cannot.
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