I wanted to let your readers know about a beautiful initiative called Oasis.
Oasis is a project started by a group of young women who all had something in common: a younger sibling got married before them. It’s an experience that can bring up a mix of emotions — and sometimes, it feels like no one else really gets it.
That’s where Oasis comes in. The team behind it has put together a heartfelt chizzuk booklet and a curated care package to send to anyone in that situation. Oasis offers a soft reminder that you’re not alone.
If you or someone you know might appreciate something like this, feel free to reach out or pass it along.
To request a package or learn more, call/text 732-523-1374 or email [email protected]
Warmly,
Oasis
Let’s not forget about the older boys out there. My younger brother got married before me. It would’ve been a tremendously uncomfortable situation but wasn’t due to how he treated me throughout his entire engagement. He sought my advice and support on multiple matters and confided his overall concerns about getting married. Younger siblings, don’t walk on eggshells around your older siblings. Include them in your experiences- both the positive and negative and most of all- treat them with respect and dignity- as my own younger brother treated me.
Get a life! Stop pampering everyone for every small thing and maybe develop skills how to deal with adversity.
start with learning empathy, you know, one of the three middos that distinguish klal yisrael. It’s called rachmanim.
Empathy is reserved for situations that require it. This is called being a wuss. And yes, my younger siblings got married before me.
I’m sorry if no one was there for you in your difficult time. For girls specifically, it can be extremely painful when their younger siblings get married first. A few of my friends went through this and though they put on a smile, it was a very difficult experience.
Also, it doesn’t require an organization.
My friend who was in Yeshiva had THREE of his younger BROTHERS-not sisters cause they get married younger-get married before him. And he told me that when his brothers approached him to politely ask if they can get married before him, he immediately told them to walk down the chuppah aisle now and Hashem already has my zivvug setup for me. The time is just not now. He had this happen with three of his brothers and with complete Bitachon and Emunah told them to immediately get engaged and married without waiting for him.
Boruch hashem he got married after them and has a large family today.
May we all learn from him to improve in our Bitachon and Emunah in Hashem and remember that
“THERE IS NO SHIDDUCH CRISES ”
cause has already has every person zivvug setup 40 days before they are even born. Now is around 20 or so years later when you’re ready to get married and hashem is just waiting for your RUCHNIUS hishtadlus of Bitachon and Emunah and Tefillos and then Hashem will send you your zivvug on a silver platter.
Actually ridiculous
Wow, Wow, Beautiful!