By A Single Jew. Dear TLS: I am a single Jew who is already pass the age of 26. It seems that all my friends and family keep encouraging me to just get married and not worry about the details of the other person. In other words, I am being told to settle
My answer to people who try to feed me such a treif idea is that I have seen many friends who have ruined their lives by settling. I’d much rather be older when I get married than be married with tremendous shalom bayis problems. I don’t know if the frum world is aware of this, but marriage is a choice that carries with it repercussions for the rest of one’s life.
I refuse to buckle to the pressure just to pick one out of the chorus line. I’d much rather be single as an older person than be married and miserable. I believe the frum world needs to reevaluate its perspective. In today’s day and age it is not healthy for people to get married just to get it out of the way. Many lives have been ruined because of the idea that at a certain age one has to settle. In a certain sense, the frum community bares the responsibility for creating this pressure to get married as soon as one is of legal age. It is a new year. Let us start off right by encouraging our friends and family to get married to someone they feel good about (after many dates) and not just a person who will do.
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