Readers’ Scoop: Snoods Are For Home

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Dear Editor,

I’m addressing this letter to benefit the mature women of our community.
I have once again returned home after taking care of errands, and I am once again bothered by something I see each time. Why are Lakewood women shopping in the non-Jewish stores wearing snoods? I understand if people are strapped for time and for carpooling or local shopping they rush out in a snood. However, why in each aisle in Target, Walmart etc.. are women attracting unnecessary questioning looks from strangers because of their headgear? These women are dressed nicely with tights, shoes, skirts, sweaters…and some even with make-up! Why was there time for all that and just not that spare minute to put on a Sheitel? Our dress code should be respectful and dignified and I don’t see a snood portraying that image. As a side mention, even between Jewish shoppers, some women’s snoods are worn in a most unTznisudik manner, posing many problems to men shoppers. Women, please take an extra minute to put on your Sheitel before heading out to shop.

Thank you,

A Sheitel wearer.

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124 COMMENTS

  1. IS A SHATEL THE ONLY MODEST HEADGEAR?,IN SOME PLACES ONLY TICHELS ARE WORN. IF YOU HAVE THE TIME TO NOTICE HOW PEOPLE ARE DRESSED,GO AFTER THE TIGHT AND SHORT,

  2. There are people who have shaitels by the shaitel macher and have nothing else to wear. Some people never wear shaitels. As said above, I don't think anyone should be commenting on ANYONE else's mode of dress. It is absolutely none of your business. If you don't like it, don't look.
    And as an aside, many hold of the opinion that sheitels are the on the lower end of the head covering options.

  3. a frum women going out of her home is representing the women of our nation.but in addition to that have these women no self respect. The way some of these women look going out of their homes is embarrising. bad enough these women look that way when their husbands return home from a long hard day at work or yeshiva.Is that the meaning of a true Aishes Chayil OY! OY! OY! Do these women own mirrors or is it true that they just dont care?

  4. Y DONT U PEOPLE MIND YOUR OWN BUSSINESS?? IT SEEMS LIKE U HAVE NOTHING BETTER TO DO THEN STARE AT WOMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  5. To the above posters–
    This woman did us a favor and is giving us a friendly reminder. Dont pounce her and try to say that she is wrong. She is a hundred percent right!! We always have to be dan lkaf zchus ppl yet at the same time, we have to remember that ppl are only giving a friendly reminder for our benefit. I work in a non-Jew office and sometimes frum ladies come in with snoods. It does look extremely weird. Everyone should do their best and if their best is to wear a snood, no problem. But in places where woman wear snoods, like Israel and Monticello bc that is their headwear, they aren't shopping in non-Jewish stores or going to Non-Jewish offices. Use your seichel!! Some things just aren't appropriate for goyim to see. I was at a convience store last night and there was a frum young yeshiva man standing there scratching lottery tickets and staring at all the women who came in. As i was getting in to my car to leave, a car with some goyim next to me was cursing the man out and saying "he's a Jew, why is he sitting there scratching lottery tickets and staring at all the women?" We have to remember that the goyim hate us enough. Dont make the anti-semitism even greater… We should go out of our way as to not attract negative attention to ourselves.

  6. whoever wrote the previous comment is most prob. a yeshiva man from (lithuanian descent)… nothing personally but the language! GEVALD GESHRIGEN!!!.
    if s/o has a problem about HIS wife, then tell HER to wear a snood!
    yes you have a point about the snoods but PLEASE, the language…

  7. I am a woman and I like to look nice, but, I have issues with sheitel wearing. They aren't always tsniudik either. They can be maras ayin by looking like they grow out of one's head or they are too eye catching. I feel wearing a snood is far more refined and tsniusdik. I don't feel anyone has the right to put down a woman for wearing a snood in public. Ladies first check the fit of your clothes. They shouldn't be too tight, too short, too revealing etc. and when wearing a snood or tichel, make sure it covers ALL your hair.

  8. I disagree vehemently with the writer of this article. No one ever looked at me strangely or questioningly for wearing a snood in a non Jewish store, and my husband prefers that I don't wear a sheitel.

  9. let's say all the snood-wearers referred to in the letter are indeed b'tznius when they are out and about. perhaps the writer should be dan l'kaf zechus herself: what if it's too hot and thus uncomfortable for a woman to wear a sheitel that day? or maybe her sheitels are being washed, and are therefore out of commission for the next day or two? what if she's got a whopping migraine? i can go on and on.

    and btw, you think that goyim are unawares of the fact that we're jewish because we're wearing sheitels?? get real! they know…they know.

  10. Amen to that!!! Women should look presentable ALL THE TIME. No need for the husbands to be looking at other women if their wives look good. 99% of the time snoods and the like are not very attractive so take the extra minute and look proper.

  11. if youre worried about the goyim – maybe you should get tattoos, multiple well placed piercings, and speak with foul language.

  12. "These women are dressed nicely with tights, shoes, skirts, sweaters…and some even with make-up!"
    …. They didn't forget or neglect to put on their sheitels. They probably don't wear them beshita.

  13. Anonymous said…
    "These women are dressed nicely with tights, shoes, skirts, sweaters…and some even with make-up!"
    …. They didn't forget or neglect to put on their sheitels. They probably don't wear them beshita.

    sweaters??? in the summer???

  14. THERE IS NO HALACHA THAT LONG SHAITELS ARENT TZNIUS!!! AND, HIGH SCHOOL GIRLS CAN HAVE SOME TIME OFF TO RELAX DURING THE SUMMER–ITS NOT YOUR BUSINESS IF THEY CHOOSE TO ROAM AROUND ALL DAY OR NOT. USE YOUR SEICHEL NEXT TIME B4 POSTING.

  15. Anonymous said…
    THERE IS NO HALACHA THAT LONG SHAITELS ARENT TZNIUS!!! AND, HIGH SCHOOL GIRLS CAN HAVE SOME TIME OFF TO RELAX DURING THE SUMMER–ITS NOT YOUR BUSINESS IF THEY CHOOSE TO ROAM AROUND ALL DAY OR NOT. USE YOUR SEICHEL NEXT TIME B4 POSTING.

    too many caps are not tznius either

  16. If the high school girls wore robes as they roamed that would be great compared to the no socks, slit dresses they parade around in.

  17. I MIND MY OWN BUSSINESS said…
    Y DONT U PEOPLE MIND YOUR OWN BUSSINESS?? IT SEEMS LIKE U HAVE NOTHING BETTER TO DO THEN STARE AT WOMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    definitely a great ticket to a sizzling afterlife.

  18. Anonymous said…
    Wearing robes isn't tznius??? HUH?

    hey why not? with the Talibanization theology in full swing pretty soon everything will be looked down upon.

  19. shaitels are "assur"

    Q. I know that wigs made of human hair are bad and not allowed but, is a
    synthetic wig made of fake fibers allowed or just a Tichel and why?
    A. Every wig today is forbidden because they all look like real hair.

  20. Shaitel being washed?
    EVERY WOMAN SHOULD OWN A MINIMUM OF FOUR SHAITELS!
    1 FOR SHABBOS
    2 FOR YOM TOV
    3 FOR WHEN HER SHVIGGER COMES
    4 FOR WHEN THE OTHER THREE NEED TO BE WASHED.

  21. Anonymous said…
    theres no heter to display a chazon ish shiur of tefach of hair.

    neither Rab Chaim Noe's shiur as well.

  22. Anonymous said…
    good grief! could everyone please write letters to themselves before they write letters to the editors .

    or not at all ever

  23. to anon 4:24—
    the same way noone will tell you to your face if you have a run in your tights, so too, she will not come over to you and tell you that you look like a worn out mop in your snood. sorry.

  24. Why can't anyone mind their own business?! If the woman is not causing a chilul Hashem (her kids are STANDING in the shopping cart, Or SCREAMING their heads off…) what is wrong with wearing a snood?
    Maybe we get headaches on hot days with the extra weight of a sheitel on. Just mind your own business and worry about what you need to change about your appearance!

  25. What is it your business how other women dress. if one feels comfortable going out in a snood LET HER BE!!!!! this is not something you should be picking on!! GET A LIFE!!

  26. Huh? Do you mean we should be embarrassed to look like jews??? Maybe soon well tell men not to go out in the summer with hats and jackets.

    I'm self conscious so I do wear sheitels in public – but i must say it does give me headaches sometimes.

    My aunt and cousin beshita do not wear sheitels, only hats or snoods.

  27. Why is this letter writer telling their FARFRUMPT opinions on the internet? Isn't that inappropriate as a frum woman? I guess that's ok since no one is seeing her!

  28. wow, people in Lakewood have nothing better to do than worry about what everyone else is doing. If this doesn't make the community sound like a cult I don't know what does. The writter of this letter really need to get a life…

  29. There is no question that a woman looks more put together with a shaitel on, but is that really what a bas yisroel is out to do when she does errands? Some women would not be caught dead without a shaitel on even if she if cleaning the house, but that doesn't mean everyone has to do that. It's called having your own identity. If the woman is covering her hair properly then it's really none of your concern what looks she gets from anyone.

  30. Dear Ms goddie to shoes,

    Do you drive while on the cell phone?
    Do you wear your seat belt when you drive?
    Do you cross the steet at the corner or in the middle of the block?
    From your letter you shop in non jewish stores when thier are jewish stores that sell the same items.
    Do you hide money from the goverment so that you can collect benifits from the goverment?
    Do you fill out you tax returns correctly?
    Do you or your husband get paid in cash so that you can cheat the gov?
    Do you fill social security taxes for you mexican?
    Do you ever buy an item wear it once and return it?

    If you answers are yes to any of these questions, LOOK AT YOURSELF BEFORE YOU LOOK AT ANYONE ELSE.

    You are the one stealing robbing and making a chilul Hashem.

    Go say your tehilim, daven every day, AND DRESS THE WAY YOU WANT TO DRESS AND STOP TELLING OTHERS HOW TO DRESS.

  31. "what kind of shita is there not to wear a shaitel? your nuts."

    (First of all it is YOU're nuts, not YOUR)

    Second of all, many rabbonim are against sheitels, Chassidish, Sefardish etc. and it is definitely not your business what other frum tsniudik women do as long as they cover their hair properly. You are too into externals.

  32. Minimum of FOUR shaitels?!!!

    R U NUTS!!??

    At $2000-$3000 a pop, I sure hope you pay full tuition since you can afford so much!!!

    By the way, are falls considered a shaitel according to the letter writer?

  33. Responding to thw writer of this letter . Firstly,
    did it ever occur to that many women dont wear shaitels in the first place . secondly , did it ever occur to you that wearing a shaitel in the summer is extremely uncomfortable and thirdly when was the last time you looked into your own mirror? are you the the perfect, most tzius lady yourself out there? i dont think so because if you were them firstly you shouldnt be in a goyish store in the first place and secondly why are you on the internet which was ossered by the same rabbanim which you hold y your tsius standards . First clean your own house !!

  34. It seems that the letter writer is embarresed of his or her judaism and in their own mind want all ladies to look and dress in a way that's not embarrasing for what they see on how the goyim look at us.
    we are supposed to live our lifes al pi halacha if the goyim make fun so be it we have peyes tzitis yarmulka cover our hair etc..

  35. Maran Ovadia Yosef said that women should NOT wear a wig. Many Ashkenzic poskim also say that a wig is a less desirable head covering. The original author of the post is just exhibiting her ignorance of halacha (besides her intolerant, holier than thou attitude.)

  36. Dear Editor,
    I was just out running errands on the world wide web and cannot believe the utter thoughtlessness of this letter writer.
    Thank you,
    A NON Shaitel Wearer

  37. Women who wear wigs are doing so for the purpose of looking attractive when they go out – which is exactly what they're NOT supposed to be doing. I have never worn a wig and never will. If snoods and scarves bother you, and it bothers you that other women aren't trying to look attractive to strange men, maybe you should ask yourself what your real problem is. Why do you want to look attractive to strange men?

  38. Its not to look attractive to strange men, its to appear dignified – as an ambassador of a Torah way of life.
    How do you dress.. like a rumpled up sack of potatoes?

  39. Women shouldn't drive cars either while they're yakking on the phone – their swerving causes all the other drivers to turn and look (in horor).

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