Reader-submitted: Parents Are Not at Fault; System Complications

opinionI just came across a letter which had been submitted by one of your readers and felt like I need to write a letter to clear my thoughts in the positive way.

I reserve the right to speak up about the truth, once and for all © 2013.

In response to The Box Child, and “It’s a Paren’t Job to Raise the Child, Not the School’s” I would like to stress on a number of facts which are certain.

I see some people disagreeing with how our yeshiva/sem system are not in the best shape today, as well as this recent letter which states that 70 years ago our parents cared about the children more than today and that it’s all the parents fault. Or at least as I read it. “It’s a parents job to raise the child” The truth is that we can not compare today with 70 years ago, for instance: The generation 70 years ago created gedolim but today we can’t. Was this the effect of our parents changing? or our schools changing?

Those who have their own children can understand that raising children in today’s age is not the easiest, after all, we have much different nesoyans than back then.

To blame the parents and literally brush off the school department is not at all correct. If so, what is the purpose of school as a whole?

Obviously, each side has there part in bringing up the child which comes as basic logic. While most of our children spend most of their day in the system it’s only right to say that the school plays a big role in ones life.

As we know there are many alternatives than fixing the actual problem. But when you see it happening, you start believing.

Witnessing a large amount of misfortune people I started to think deeper. Why should we have a situation like this? Why should Hashem do this to us?

Besides having difficult problems with our schools, we have many more “new” gadgets which just helps this bad situation, the situation I am talking about is our failures. The reason I say “our” is because this is a global issue in the frum Jewish system. From what I understand, problems like this occur even in non Jewish schools. But, do we need to lower ourselves for the fulfillment of… nothing??

It’s hard when they say that this kid went off due to the Internet and sentences regarding it. As a matter of fact, the entire world is filled with hardships and many hard feats we must face.

BUT when we have a solution to fix the issue and we just drop it, it is then our hardship which we brushed off. i.e. yeshivas, seminaries, schools failures etc.

DON’T just brush off the problem. We must speak up about it. We must not be naïve and fix it.

If ‘We’ caused it for ourselves. We must fix it ourselves.

When reading just a few articles regarding our failing system I felt a joy of gratitude to these people. I said; finally someone is speaking up about the truth.

In the recent “Box Child” article which made me emotional with the Truth drooling from every word. It was an article which would stay in me forever.

I looked at the facebook likes 1200? Is the Internet really helping us fix up klal yisroel? We must use it for the right things… and this is one of them.

I send my hakaros hatov to Rabbi Abenson and I am standing at your side.

Waiting for the revolution to spread further.

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5 COMMENTS

  1. Dont Forget to read the the whole thing and the points are simple. if you need help search for “Box Child” and read and take notes!

    Torah Revolution! thank you Rabbi Abenson for your inside and clarity.

  2. I DID NOT READ THE BOX CHILD ARTICLE , BUT THERE IS ONE THING THAT HAS TO BE CLEAR, IF THE PARENTS WANT THE SCHOOL TO DO THEIR JOB THEN THE PARENTS HAVE TO BE CONSISTENT WITH THE SCHOOL AND NOT JUST TELL THE SCHOOL TO MAKE RULES AND THEN BLAME THE RULE ON THE SCHOOL

  3. to ADMINISTRATER: 1. First read the box child before commenting.

    to The Truth:

    2. The article is not blaming anyone! Yet saying that it’s the parents as well as the schools problem if the child fails.

    3. The solution is to fix the problem, not to brush it off by giving kids medication, throwing them out of class etc.

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