1. Hi. I am married in my thirties with a few little kids. I was raised by an abusive mother.I have been to very effective psychotherapy 10 years ago. I grieved hard, and feel that I am as emotionally as solid as I could be given the history. I enjoy my family life, my career, and have learned totally new communication skills in order to have fulfilling relationships.

   Though I have set limits with my mother over the years about not calling me names, She is still constantly telling me what to do and it feels crushing. She is very emotionally ill with multiple diagnoses…probably OCD, borderline personality disorder, and she is also a food addict. In a 5 minute interaction she could tell me to do 3 things. “You should tell your kids to do this….If you clean up right after a meal your house would be cleaner….Don’t let your son do that it’s dangerous etc.” I’ve asked her to stop but she cant. She even responds that it’s a mothers job. Real typical borderline enwrapped in herself. I realize that I am enabling her but don’t know what limit to set here within the confines of kibud av vaem. Any advice?

2. can you explain how ocd that is not visible to others effect me? i am able to learn and work. its just i am thinking the entire time about math equations. or that i should touch my chin with both hands evenly. I was never diagnosed.
   can you explain to me the effects that it can have on my future?
   I am 24 married

3. my 24 year old doesnt have a press to get married. when i tell him to look at his friends. he says he doesnt see they are better off. what can i do to help him? how can i get him to see the importance and the greatness to marriage?

4. I have a 20 yr old daughter who very much wants to marry. However, we, my husband and I both feel she is too immature and doesn’t have a clear way of thinking to be able to deal with major issues of marriage. How can we handle this situation? Thank you.

5. Thanks for your great program.

   About 1 ½ years ago I had a small disagreement with a workmate, this turned into a major confrontation from both sides. Seeing how upset she got I apologized later that day. She refused to accept and gave me a cold shoulder. A few months later I apologized again and received no response with continued cold shoulder. I concluded that at this point it’s her issue – that she just can’t get past the issue. Is there anything else I can do to help the situation?

   Most of all what bothers me is that every time I see her I just think negatively about her – her outfit, her shoes, her walk etc. How can I completely move on – meaning see her as a good person – if she continues not forgiving me?

   Thank you

6. Hi there, Mordechai! Thank you so very much for everything you do.

   I am a fourteen year old girl that is VERY spiritually growth inclined. There are many positives to this character trait, as well a few negatives. One of the negatives are that it’s really hard for me to make friends because the girls in my class are more into other things. While my ideal conversation is one about Hashem and tayvos and stuff like that, girls my age like talking about shopping, and their nieces and teachers and other boring stuff like that. My classmates say I’m too deep. Is that true? Should I work on enjoying the stuff normal teens do?

   Thank you in advance.

7. Oy Hashem! I’m crying as I’m listening to Reb Chaim talk. Please ask him to share his tehillim name, Mordechai.

8. Hello, my husbands mother is probably a borderline personality. I wanted to find out if it is hereditary. I have been having trouble with my 6 year old lately and she yells uncontrollably when she doesn’t get her way. I don’t have this same experience with the other children. She also yells “you hate me!” When she doesn’t get what she wants or if I am strict. I don’t know how to deal with this. I am having a lot of trouble with this child.

9. I suffer from anxiety. I have tried quite a few medications and even alternative herbs and supplements. I wake up in the night with panic attacks only when I have tried them.
   So I ahve basically decided to just live with the anxiety which is less “painful” than the panic attacks I suddenly wake up with.
   Why am I experiencing more anxiety when I take something?. I know there is an adjustment period which that is worse than the anxiety I live with.
   PLease advise.

10. Wow. The pain in the posts is palpable. I just think Debbie’s daughter should go out w/ what to do’s son. Sounds like a perfect Shidduch. Send the shadchunis to TLS, btw. They get the credit !!

11. Very funny! Cute thinking! 🙂

12. I follow this section for months. i am so happy that there are only serious questions and comments. people really share their issues and get help. I am so thankful to TLS for hosting it. Mordechai is a tzadik. he never mentions his office #. Everyone is doing this to help people. there was only once in past that some rif rafs wrote crazy comments.
    Get off of this section. if one person hesitates to ask a question. hashem should help you. its anonymous. dont ruin the few pure places to reach out live help.

    An Avid Follower of TLS and Reb Mordechai

13. Hi mordechai
    I am 27 years old and married for 5 years with 2 kids
    During which I was never really happy, but there is no real reason(abuse or fights) that qualify for divorce, my wife and I are just not a match both in personality and in what we want in life, I am torn between sacrificing my happiness for the happiness of my 2 chidren who will defiantly suffer, on the other hand even though I have been working on radical acceptence for the last few years I feel like I will never really be able to fullfill by potential while in this marrige ,please help

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