Dear Lakewood Scoop:
I have become aware that there is an upcoming meeting in Eretz Yisrael to discuss the “Shidduchim Crisis” and possibly cancel 12th grade Mesivta or learning in Eretz Yisrael.
I hope this letter can reach the ears of those Roshei Hayeshiva Shlita that are meeting.
As a father of 5 daughters in Shidduchim and as an educator, I would like to humbly comment that I don’t believe that it would help the situation to cancel boys learning.
The Abishter has put enough boys and enough girls in this world.
The problem is our girls are turning into wholesome Bais Yaakov girls, whilst the boys are not coming out the same.
I believe a strengthing in the system of the weaker boys and an emphasis on them (as opposed to focusing on the better Bochrim), we can uplift these boys, many whom have been broken from the system and add more boys to the pot.
In addition, we have to work on ourselves in the area of Bain Odom lchavero.
Many parents of boys have become, for lack of a better term, money-hungry with their demands. The demands have become almost impossible for the average person to handle and many, many good girls get swept away.
We continue to do a selektzia ourselves and thrust away those without status or thinny thin or without lots of money.
And the shadchanim are in on this too!
We need to honestly work on loving every single Jew and realizing the Chashivus of everyone.
So before we take away anyone’s learning in the name of Shidduchim, please, I implore those gedolim to look into these topics.
An Eved HaShem.
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