We are a hard working family and we want our family to move near us, especially since the gas prices have become so expensive and made family trips less frequent.
However our family and many of our friends are very much turned off by the nosy neighbors.
The problem is the neighbors ask all our guests tons of non-stop personal questions. They need to know how much money people make and how much they spend, how much they have in the bank, and what they do all day and where they went and the questions go on and on.
If this were just some neighbors we could avoid them. The issue is that the invasion of privacy is prevalent throughout the (Lakewood) community. We know many people who have moved out and many who want to move out because it’s really not nice manners to ask people so many very personal questions.
Also, the constant nosiness is something that many guests have mentioned throughout the years. Imagine how embarrassing it is when before the guests even get to our front door they’re already asked so many personal questions from the neighbors?
We are turning to TLS in the hopes of posting this to remind people that sometimes someone is a gerr or a balteshuva, or perhaps having difficult marital or other family issues and these questions often lead to Loshon Hora, richilus, and even jealousy.
There’s Halacha about how neighbors should not look into their neighbors houses, and affairs. If people realized that it’s hurtful to make people feel badly about being poor or the things they don’t have or reminding them about being a gerr or comparing one’s husband to another’s husband, maybe people would think before asking so many questions that are not their business.
We have a friendly community, but we should not feel like people are too nosy.
Thank you so much for publishing this, perhaps people will weigh in on the topic and maybe help spread the message of not being nosy.
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