For many boys as young as having just turned bar mitzva, it is a total nightmare. Days and sleepless nights filled with anxiety if they will get into the “top” mesivata where all their friends are going.
What so so troubles me is how have we reached a point that a boy at age 13 has his future dictated to him based on how he did in elementary. How many boys have the kochos and just that need a push, had they have gone to a top mesivta they could have done extremely well, instead after being rejected in all his choices, he is deflated beaten down and left with little self esteem.
What was wrong in the good old days, as long as you tried hard and wanted to learn you are welcomed.
Would love to hear feedback on this topic.
A concerned Lakewood father.
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