Dear Lakewood Scoop Readers.
I want to bring up something alarming, troubling, and painful happening here in Lakewood. I knew this occurs for girls applying to High School, but I had no idea this also happens with bochrim trying to get into Mesivtas.
I have a friend with a son trying to get his son to a Mesivta; the hardship and the run around he has been getting from every Mesivta is not normal/reasonable and undoubtedly unacceptable.
Most of the MESIFTAS in Lakewood say that they are full to get you off their back, but the truth is that even if they are not full, they are just not interested in taking your bochur into their mesivta. Or you can have some that tell you straight to your face, YOUR SON IS NOT AN ALEF BOY, AND WE ARE ONLY TAKING IN ALEF BOYS! THAT’S A DISGRACE ON ITS OWN.
The worst part is that this boy is a METZUYEN in YIRAS SHOMAYIM and a little less than an ALEF in learning.
What are we being taught all the time from our GEDOLIM, YIRAS SHOMAYIM is the most important thing, but for some reason, this doesn’t count in the Lakewood MOSDOS!!
One place doesn’t want to take in his son because a parent of a bochur they accepted already told them that if they take this bochur in, I am pulling my son out!! What a shame. I can’t think of anything worse than that! It doesn’t “פאס’ for that parent to send his son to a mesivta that accepted a bochur that’s alef-plus-metzyen in yiras shomayim but not alef-plus-metzuyen in learning!
As a result, this child was told to go to a certain MESIVTA where the YIRAS SHOMAYIM is not on the highest level, and the child begged his parents not to send him there because of the YIRAS SHOMAYIM.
Let me be clear, there is nothing wrong with the boys at that “certain mesivta” at all, just they are at a different level than this boy with yiras shomayim. One day when they go out to work and make money, all the Yeshivas will be running after them to honor them, not for who they are, but because they have money!!!
How many sleepless nights do these boys (and their parents) have to endure until they can be “zoche” to get into a MESIVTA??
Written in great pain,
A caring friend
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