Letter: Dear Rebbi, Morah, Teacher & Assistant

Dear Rebbi, Morah, Teacher, Assistant,

This school year is coming to an end and your time together with our child is coming to a close.

I want you to know that whether I have expressed it to you or not, I appreciate everything you put in to our child this year.

I feel terrible not ending off the year with a gift or a check, even though you truly deserve it.

We financially strapped at the moment (along with many others trying to make ends meet) and it’s not feasible for us to get all the teachers gifts or money.

I don’t feel comfortable sending you a $10 bill as a thank you and to buy a cheap gift that will probably end up in the garbage isn’t wise either.

I did consider baking you some cookies but I know teachers can’t pick and choose which houses they can eat from so that’s not an option either.

So instead, I am writing this letter to let you know that you are appreciated and worthy of gifts greater than I can give.

Everything you’ve put into this year planted seeds of growth, Torah, skills, and greatness in our child.

You worked many hours overtime that don’t get paid for.

You went out of your way, above and beyond, and many times it went unnoticed or unknown.

You had to struggle with decisions and it didn’t always end up with glorifying results.

You had to deal with chutzpah and all sorts of distractions and attitudes that make teaching difficult.

But you continued to teach our child and be a beautiful example for them.

So please accept my thank you in this letter in place of a gift or money we don’t have available to give.

I hope that our ultimate gift to you will be the nachas that our child brings us all with the future.

And I hope others that cannot give a gift will take the time to at least write to express a thank you to you as well.

Yours truly,
Your student’s mother

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    • This is one of those times that after I see something I’m jealous that I didn’t think of doing it.. I think it’s Beautiful wish I was the one who wrote it

    • Yup!
      Do you “tip” your cleaning lady on a monthly basis?
      Do you “tip” your appliance repair guy?
      How about the guy you hired to repair your broken…?

      People you pay, you don’t need to tip! (I pay the camps enough money, I hope they have the decency to pay the counselors…)

      Years ago pple tipped sleep away counselors as they did not make any money from the camp (as they were getting free food and board).
      Years ago, NO ONE “tipped” day camp counselors…
      For some reason camp prices went up and now it also became the norm that many DAY camps even send out notes about suggested tips. (While the camp owners make salaries…)
      Shame on the camp!

      • @A parent
        The prices on camps have gone up and some of them, I know from 1st hand experience, or 2nd hand from good friends, are very close-fisted when it comes to paying the counselors more than like $250 for 30 days of 24/7 sleepaway work with a very energetic bunk.
        So know that those tips are what the camp is hoping for you to give while making the parents think that the camp is using their fees to pay the counselors.

  1. As a teacher I agree and appreciate your letter.

    As a teacher who has children myself in school I think the standards of gift giving has gotten out of hand!
    No one needs your gifts and if everyone gives, guess what? The teacher than has to give for her own kids’ teachers and instead of buying, just recycles… And the crazy cycle continues…
    We have enough social stress and pressures- no one needs more…

    A note is much more appreciated. (Although it would be nice if you sent a personal one directly to the teacher, WITHOUT a gift….)

  2. If you want to write a thank you note, write a thank you note. It shouldn’t include an explanation & a whole Megillah on why you’re not including money (or some other gift).
    (TBH, this letter seems very “Jewy” with all the extraneous talk about money & personal finances.)

    • @yup
      TBH its perfectly fine to explain why one isnt sending a gift, including not sending cookies,
      It was a beautiful sentiment apologizing for not putting word to deed, yet nonetheless acknowledging the gratitude that is due.
      TBH, your comment seems very “hatey” with all the extraneous talk about how best to write a letter expressing thanks.

  3. Dear Letter Writer,
    Keep in mind thank you’s don’t have to be grand. Every teacher would appreciate $10 rather than no dollars. Every teacher would appreciate a personalised letter rather than a letter on the internet. Think practical instead of grand and you will touch many more lives.

  4. hi. we’re all financially strapped. when you actually send in a note with your child, not only does the teacher feel appreciated; your child gains chashivus for his/ her education. your child doesnt know what money is or isnt in the envelope, s/he just sees that you care. (and yes, if you have 10$ to give, it goes a long way, and no we wont judge we’ll just feel appreciated)

  5. Why are you leaving a note here instead if directly to the teacher? And why the whole pity party of not being able to afford a gift?
    Send a not saying thank you for teaching my child this year, if you are able, add a bar of chocolate. As a teacher, this is very appreciated.

  6. I just sent a nice note along with a family pack mezonos (store bought). Was less than $10. I’m sure her kids will appreciate it. Doesn’t have to be expensive. Id probably do same for the rebbe

  7. As a extra note about tips throughout the year.

    If you’re making a family Simcha, please don’t forget to tip all workers helping you out to make your Simcha nice, relaxed and enjoyable with your guests.

    Rather it’s the waiters or the kitchen staff preparing the food for the waiters to serve or your coat check and valet parking staffing service. They are all doing different jobs for your family simcha but all of their services are needed to make your simcha into a enjoyable and relaxing Simcha together with your family and guests.

  8. Clearly this lovely Mommy has sent a version to her Morahs, but included the thought here for us to share. Thank you!!!

    I wish I could send a $10 gift per teacher. But käh with all the wonderful, wonderful teachers that would be my grocery bill for the week. Even a $3 chocolate bar x 30 teachers is beyond my means right now. And some years the 3 hours it takes to write 30 notes (6 minutes a note x 10 teachers an hour) is too much! I feel so awful but at least try to convey my appreciation with effusive thanks each time I am fortunate enough to speak with the teachers, and maybe send them cookies on Chanukah.

    Morahs we cannot thank you enough! May you be repaid in this world and the next!!

  9. It’s amazing how people can twist and be so negative. Maybe this person wanted to bring awareness that even though people can not afford to gift their teacher and rebbeim because of their financial situation they still want to say thank you and show hakoras hatov. Perhaps writing here will make more people aware or remind them to do the same. Thank you for sharing and yes, good idea for you to send them a personal note as well. Hatzlacha and iyh Hashem should shower you with parnassah that next year you can give the note along with a generous contribution (not considering this a tip! You tip a waiter not a teacher that educated your children all year, a very hard job!)

  10. A Parent. If day camps or camps would pay their counselors a full salary without asking for tipping help they would lose even more money then they are losing now.
    It’s hard to make a living by running a camp

  11. Why not write all that you wrote here in a thank you card?
    I can’t afford to give money to the teachers at this time either. Yes, they may think that the envelope contains a check, but I don’t care. I send a thank you card, and I’m sure it’s appreciated.

  12. This letter greatly affected me. I chose not to write thank you notes to the teachers in the past because I couldn’t include money & felt embarrassed. I didn’t know what they’d think of me or if it would affect how they treat my children.
    But this year I did write thank you notes but to avoid any negative feelings I included my tax return as well as a detailed expense list of my required “Jewish” travel.
    Rosh Hashanah in Uman
    Pesach in Orlando
    Lag B’Omer in Meron (when applicable)
    Sukkos in Yerushalyim
    Reb Shayeles Yahrtzeit in Kerestir
    Reb Elimelechs Yahrtzeit in Lizensk
    Tisha Bav in Yerushalyim
    From the information I supplied it’s clear to the teachers that while I would love to, I simply don’t have even an extra dollar to spare on gifts for them.

  13. I am a teacher and I truly appreciate all the thank you notes I get. I’d like to make a suggestion. For those parents who are very busy please don’t wait until June to write to your children’s teachers. There should be something you can thank them for during the year, why wait until the end of the year to thank them? A thank you note is appreciated anytime during the year. It’s not too late to send a note even though the school year is over. When your child sees that you are showing your appreciation to their teachers (I’m not saying it has to be a gift- a note is enough!) you are being mechanech them and showing them you are machshiv their teachers.

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