Dear Editor, It is well known that medicine in 2026 is complex; it is also well known that halacha is complex, with varying interpretations, shitos, and societally accepted piskei din. It is therefore logical to conclude that medical halacha in 2026 should integrate both ideologies for a combination necessitated by intricacies delineated in both. Nowhere is this demonstrated more than in the ICU (intensive care unit) and in end-of-life scenarios.
I am a frum ICU nurse practitioner at a nationally renown educational medical center consistently ranked in the top 5 hospitals by US News and World Report. I have experience in the neurologic ICU, medical ICU, and cardiac ICU, all in the same medical center. Naturally, I bear witness to death and dying every day. For the past 15 years I have examined patient care through the lens of medical care of distinction, and have been mentored by world renown specialists in critical care, pulmonology, neurology, advanced heart failure, and cardiothoracic surgery. I also, and more importantly, have the zechus to be married to a husband who is a true ben Torah, who went through the yeshiva system and years in Kollel, and continues to shteig even though life-circumstance has dictated venturing out into the professional world. We are bentsched with four beautiful children that we are raising b”EH to follow in the footsteps of the Torah giants on whose shoulders we ride m’chayil el chayil.
Employed at a medical center of excellence, I have been privileged to care for patients from around the globe who seek world class medical care for simple to complex diseases. As such, it is a premier destination for the frum world, with significant frum presence in ICU’s and regular nursing units alike. Accordingly, as a nurse practitioner in the medical ICU I was gifted the extraordinary zechus to care for dozens of frum patients in the throes of critical illness and end-of-life. These myriad intimate eyewitness experiences; from management of life threatening infections, to performing invasive procedures upon, to observing the moment of yetzias neshama; give me the unique obligation of sharing my observations of the relationship between frum patients and 2026 medicine and halacha.
A medical posek is the natural convergence of medicine and halacha in 2026. Nowhere is the directive of asei licha Rav more important than in end of life scenarios to parse out halachic requirements, acceptable risks, and appropriate pain alleviation. Akin to medicine, these complex questions are to be posed to specialists in this highly specialized field (medical posek). Just as one would surely not seek advice regarding specialized cancer treatment from a primary care provider (PCP), end-of-life sheilos in their profound halachic complexity can only be addressed by known and trained experts in that area of Jewish law.
Furthermore, it is crucial for the medical team (ie the intensivist/ICU team) to have direct communication with the medical posek. As with other world languages, the language of medicine is foreign to individuals not educated in its meaning and nuance. It is therefore likely that most individuals possess rudimentary understanding of pathophysiology as well as the natural history of the afflicting disease which would therefore significantly limit formulation of a sheila that is inclusive of clinical acuity, degree of morbidity, and risk of mortality.
To illustrate, tumor lysis syndrome, a common complication of chemotherapy, carries a mortality risk of up to 30% dependent on degree of clinical characterization, organ involvement and underlying cancer. Only the doctors/medical team will possess this knowledge. This imperative clinical knowledge and nuance underscores the pivotal role of doctors and the medical team in a 2026 medical sheila. Additionally, grief, fear, and sleep deprivation of the patient and family, all hallmarks of medical crises, add another complicating dimension to cogent articulation of a comprehensive sheila.
The wealth of lifesaving apparatuses and treatments distinctive of 2026 medicine stands in stark contrast to the existence of Tevah. We can, with HK”BH’s reshus, keep any human body alive with mechanical circulatory support (ECMO) to circulate the blood, a ventilator to provide oxygen and rid carbon dioxide, and dialysis to filter toxins and metabolic waste.
In that context, the magnitude of the following cannot be overstated: Medical prominence does not bestow the power of miracles to its emissaries; Tevah exists in every hospital, regardless of national/world standing. Terminal cancer cannot be reversed, end-stage pulmonary hypertension cured, or advanced sepsis halted. All of the aforementioned still carry the same mortality risk independent of hospital name. Moreover, it is important to note that even before reaching the acuity of critical care, the practice of hospital medicine is informed and guided by standards of care and evidence based practice. While lacking in name, distinction, and resources of nationally ranked medical centers, community hospitals provide the same standard of care for simple and straight-forward illnesses. A diagnosis of cellulitis, for example, that requires intravenous antibiotics and a short duration of inpatient clinical monitoring would dictate the same management regardless of location or choice of hospital. Essentially, change in zip code would be the only significant modification if one were to pursue hospital transfer. While the role of specialists in complex disease is undisputable, herculean efforts extended without delineation of clinical necessity and consideration of short term risks measured against long term benefit is unwise and lacking in medical halachic insight.
For example, a patient admitted for septic shock (life threatening low blood pressure) from translocation of gut bacteria into the blood stream (bacteremia) secondary to advanced metastatic pancreatic cancer has very limited options. Yes, we can treat the infection with strong antibiotics; yes, we can provide supportive care by way of vasopressors, fluids, and even enteral nutrition; interventions which will necessitate invasive, painful, and sometimes risky procedures to safely administer. However, those interventions do not treat the process that caused the illness; we are limited by Tevah. The use of cytotoxic chemotherapy at this clinically decompensated juncture would be fatal, and radiation in advanced metastatic disease is primarily of palliative utility, thus limiting our treatment options to the singular goal of endeavoring to neutralize the infection. Moreover, complete bacterial eradication even with the strongest and most potent antibiotics (that are often also toxic to the kidneys and liver), is uncertain due to chemo-related immunosuppression and overall poor physiologic reserve. Often, b’derech HaTevah, the advanced disease status of the described patient significantly increases mortality risk, with a 30-day mortality rate of >30% in solid tumor patients with bacteremia based on current medical research. Acknowledging Tevah and its limitations on prognosis and treatment, the management of infection from advanced pancreatic cancer would be similar regardless of medical institution. Exposing such a patient to the significant risks of inter-hospital transfer with lack of clear long term benefit surely obligates pause.
The frum community is blessed with medical askanim and frum medical organizations that bridge the chasm of hospital-to-hospital transfer with efficiency via deep networking pockets and powers of persuasion. The alacrity with which these organizations/medical askanim respond indisputably stems from deep dedication to our communities and hatzolas nefashos. However, from a critical care perspective, there is an unintended and subconscious lack of medical consideration to inform an educated risk/benefit analysis that would define the safety and clinical utility of transfer. This is due in part to incomplete medical knowledge and lack of formal medical training which inherently impedes the ability to give safe and proper medical advice. The intricacies of critical care medicine are limited to those in the specialty, of whom clinical opinion may or may not be sought in these scenarios. These individuals/organizations are indeed well connected in medical circles and may even possess a bit of critical care knowledge, but personal contacts and medical familiarity are a poor substitute for formal medical training and qualifications that are the professional prerequisite to furnish high-risk critical care medical advice.
The distinction between sense and sensibility becomes nebulous in critical care and end-of-life situations, and it is understandable that “doing something” is more palatable than the sometimes more clinically appropriate “doing nothing”. It has been my observation that patients and families, amidst an emotional meat grinder of fear and powerlessness associated with critical illness and end-of-life, will cling to the fragile threads of hope spun by the prospect of care transfer to the “top hospital/top doctor” despite all reasonable medical advice. In this vulnerable state, they are sold a clinical bill of goods that even we, at a top medical center, cannot possibly deliver; Tevah is immutable here too. Tragically, given that we are hardly a clinical vending machine, many patients pass away hundreds of miles away from their home and loved ones after days of intense physical and emotional suffering.
To conclude, it is well known that HK”BH programmed the world to include a period of illness prior to death at the behest of both Yitzchok and Yaakov avinu. To date, the practice of medicine has not discovered a durable method to outmaneuver this process.
Acknowledging that a Yid must never lose hope, that the passionate tefilos pouring forth in these situations are not ever wasted, the specter of misah continues to endure; HK”BHs reluctance to deviate from Tevah and to perform overt miracles is more powerful than any medical therapy or apparatus. It is my fervent tefila that HK”BH bring Moshiach speedily to heal all of Klal Yisroel.
Until then, I remain,
A Critically Concerned Critical Care Nurse Practitioner
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Unfortunately, many hospitals have distortedly cruel views about medical care for the elderly. This is a problem because it leads to immoral conclusions about the necessary medical care and medical treatments that elderly patients should be receiving. This is indeed heart breaking and tragic, to put it mildly. May the Lord protect us all from such cavalier attitudes from those who are supposed to heal, but ultimately feel it is in their progressive interests to do otherwise.
It’s not hospitals. It’s medical prortocol from the industry, politicians and insurances which dictate such affairs. including the hospitals and the doctors malpractice insurances. Knowing how to deal with and manuever around these difficulties, is oart and parcel of this process.
I have experienced the fallout of the industry and the whole system of the insurance and pharma companies deals. Insurance kept on denying coverage for my medication. My Dr found out that the insurance company had a deal with one of the pharmaceutical companies who were trying to promote their medication. The insurance company was therefore denying approval of all other medications besides for that specific company’s. It is hard to know if we are getting the best treatment, when we know that we might be getting whatever is the best for someone else’s pocket. The same is with cancer patients, Oncologists who get things “paid for” from the pharma companies that make chemo,,, will not want to treat the patient with a cheaper, safer option which they do not get kickback for
Thank you very much for a very interesting and beneficial letter.
I am sure that many people after they read your letter, they would have wished that you were the caring nurse for their not well parent.
When a person is still healthy, now is the time to daven to the Almighty and ask for guidance and help, how to live a life that will keep us on the ball and healthy for many years.
May be a generational thing, but that was very looooonnnggg. I honestly don’t even know the point that was trying to be made…
Point is that HKB”Hcontrols everything not you or any other human. But eductaing yourself on end of life possiblities within medicine and halachik medicine, which includes having a Rav who is extremely knowledgeable in medicine, is an important factor in the process.
Can this please be limited to a paragraph or two…. I have no idea what the point is that is trying to be made. Veeerryy looong
Go back to kindergarten and learn how to read. Learn some reading comprehension.
Beautifully written. As a Healthcare provider for many years especially in the area of oncology, I can’t agree more. Often emotions overcome reason even halachic reason. That includes feeding patients where feeding itself may be toxic and fraught with high risk in a body too ill for swallowng and digestion. Today there are a number of hospice agencies that have aligned themselves with rabbonim so that patients get halchaicly mandated end of life care. It behooves families in any city to seek out the rabbinical organizations and rabannim who are familiar with these programs.
Chayim Aruchim has a dedicated hotline for medical professionals staffed by medically trained rabbonim and licensed healthcare providers. They are always available for any questions.
Being that you work at a top hospital, you have no idea of the incompetence at some of these local community hospitals.
Medical errors is the 3rd leading cause of death in America
Anyone who unfortunately spent time at these local hospitals and then transferred to a top hospital can describe what a world of difference there is in the level of care
Marty Makary head of the FDA and was a surgeon at John Hopkins wrote a great book called “Unaccountable”
Speak for yourself and your inability to care for your loved ones. That’s where majority of the mistakes are made. That cause s the medical issues. As a medical proffessionalposted, too many especially in our community basically kill their own by doing things on their own, which are dangerous and counter-indicated.
Amazing article! As a colleague of the author, I can vouch for their commitment to halacha and their patient care. They are masters of their craft, and the oilam will benefit by heeding the call for awareness of the metzius!
TLDR
The author is arguing that in critical illness, especially in the Frum community, people often push for transfers to “top hospitals” and the most aggressive interventions possible believing that will lead to better outcomes not truly realizing how too often there aren’t better answers. These approaches lead to more pain and suffering.
She further argues that decisions should be made by ICU specialists working directly with poskim who specialize in medical decisions as medicine had its own rules and someone without proper experience will too often push for approaches that have little upside that cause unnecessary pain and suffering.
I would advise people to avoid the hospital in Lakewood if possible.
As a healthcare professional with hospital experience who recently had a family member suddenly receive a rare diagnosis and rapidly deteriorate afterwards, I definitely agree with the author. Initially, of course we were told to go to the best doctors at the best hospital, due to the rarity of the diagnosis. But knowing the odds, and still watching others push aggressive treatments in the hope that they would somehow work even against all medical odds was extremely difficult to go through.
There is so much more to critical care and end of life situations from a halachic standpoint than most people realize- most would assume that we’re obligated to “do everything we can until the last second”, but there’s a ton of nuance and having the right person speak to the right Rav in such situations is so important. It’s very hard for immediate family to ask these questions, or to accept a psak, without having things skewed by intense emotions that are inevitable in such situations.
This is a very well formulated letter, although the message could have been delivered in more concise and succinct manner.
This is a letter on TLS, not a college thesis. You could have omitted the medical jargon and still gotten your point across.
I honestly don’t know what the point of your letter is?!?
I’m a medical professional, so maybe write a letter that is concise, so everyone can understand?!?
I personally think the reason that people search for better care, because many local hospitals don’t even provide Basic care.
Unfortunately this trend seems to be becoming the Norm. I hope this direction reverses.
They say that in Manhattan as well. So why does everyone continue insisting on going to Manhattan hospitals?