Dear Lakewood Scoop readers,
My little contribution that’s been getting older singles to date.
Hi everyone I have no solutions, but here is something that can be done to make it easier for guys to give a yes – primarily older guys.
An average date cost a minimum of $150 between car rental, gas, tolls and drinks.
I lend out my car with gas and easy pass. It is a game changer in convincing guys to go on quick coffee dates.
P.S. blind dates with a few min requirements are so much less taxing and stressful. Do more aggressive info after the first date.
Would be nice if Lakewood scoop would make a “shidduch” between people with an extra car that can be used in evenings and “adopt-a-Buchor” to use for dates.
Please don’t post my name.
Thanks,
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I was okay with Kars4Kids for a while until a group of 2cnd grade kids took a cross country tour with one of those Kars. That’s when I said: “Okay, enough is enough already. Those radio jingles are very nice, but this is definitely not a good idea!”
However, KarsForDates, for older singles sounds safe to me. Sounds like a good idea. Why not?
And there’s need to come up with a jingle for that, not unless it’s going to be advertised on the airwaves.
The way the driving conditions are in Lakewood, why would anyone risk giving their cars out 🤔
Due to the many dates I’ve gone on and the exorbitant cost I now only do Beshows. This automatically eliminates so many girls as when they hear Beshows they say no. And then they complain they don’t get any dates!
?. What does beshow mean.
Lending out a car is a very big risk & I don’t recommend it.
That’s a very nice idea. However I think a major reason why older singles are not going on dates is because of how complicated our dating system has become.
I don’t have time to go into all the details, but I think it needs a major overhaul.
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Sounds like a good deal for all.
It’s almost as interesting an idea as “Rent-a-shidduch”, and comes with fewer legal risks…
Knowing that the girls will say no in 85% of the cases, can you exactly blame the boy’s for being reluctant to just spend the money and the evening just anytime a name comes up ?
Most of these guys are tired and burned out from being rejected try after try.
85% rejection at $150 a date = spending $1,000 to meet your bashert. That’s about the cost of a shadchan by my math. And a bargain for a lifetime of love and family! Give yourself another $1,000 budget and let us know if you get engaged!!!
While your lev is in the right place, I would think most girls/women would turn down a date because the guy doesn’t own a car of his own.
Lending a car out for a date sounds like a good idea, but you need to consider the very high liability risk of lending your car to someone that you don’t know, especially in locations that have a high rate of accidents because of inexperienced or just plain aggressive drivers. CV something happens, you will certainly be named in the lawsuit.
It would be better to offer a ride then to lend out the car. Set up a network of people so that no one is more than 8 miles or even 10 from home base.
What if the car was needed to pick up a date? Do you still offer to drive him/her on the date?
It’s a big mitzvah to lend out your car. It doesn’t matter so much why they need a car. If a yid needs a car, it’s a big mitzvah to lend it out. Also, most people try to keep their dating a bit private. So even if you are only interested in helping people with dating and nothing else, there’s a bigger chance they’ll take you up on the offer and use your car for dating, if you don’t make them say that they are using it for dating.
Also, if you charge a little for the car, but much less than the market, that is also a big mitzvah. Like this more people will probably give it out, and more often. And the nitzrach won’t feel so much like a nitzrach. And the girls won’t say as quickly that “I don’t want him, he can’t even rent a car.”
The girl won’t want him because he doesn’t own a car.
Offer to drive the individual rather than lending out a vehicle. Too many high risks performing that misva.
People used to lend out cars all the time for dates. How about just lending to people you know? this is a great idea.
If we are trying to get the boys to meet more prospects, this is an easy way to do it, why all the opposition?!
Nope. Don’t do it. Too risky. If there’s an accident CV. , the one who loaned out his/her vehicle will be at fault. No misva here. Offer to drive, instead.
Aveirah goreres aveirah. First you wrote that the mitzvah is not worth it. Now you are claiming that it’s not even a mitzvah! I think you need to read this book https://www.artscroll.com/Books/9781422632864.html
Why don’t the older single have their own cars?
Maybe because they can’t/won’t drive or can’t afford a vehicle of there own.