Today, Tuesday, June 2 at about 4 pm I went into a fast food place in Lakewood, NJ to grab a bite, the kid that served me looked nice, I asked him “did you wrap?” He responded “no”, I told him I’m running out to my car, which I did n brought him my Teffilin.
His manager came over and said, “I’m sorry, he is on the clock now so he can’t do it now.” I told him it’s his responsibility if he forgets later.
STOREOWNERS/EMPLOYERS: Please take some responsibility, remind your employees, that Hashem is waiting for his Davening n for his putting on Teffilin, it may cost you some minutes from your time, but he will become a better employee knowing that you care about him. Tizku L’Mitzvos.
Loads of Nachas from your kids and employees.
Yoshi W
mamish noirah
Yoshi did you offer him a tip ?
He offered him something much more valuable than a tip, but the manager would not allow him to take it. Get your priorities straight not everything is about money.
Smash burger has a tefilin stand in his store and make workers put it on before they start work
make we can set this up in every store
It’s smash HOUSE not smash BURGER!
It’s smash HOUSE not smash BURGER!
Smash House lol
Why not just where them in Shul?
think aboutit, and get back to us, why this is the case.
Sheesh. Wrapping takes 2 minutes max. And if the kid was regular frum you would deny him 15 minutes to go to mincha?
Yes. Look up the halacha, when you’re an employee you have to be at your job. Especially now when you can daven before and after your job
The owner probably thinks he’s doing chesed by employing one of these kids. So included in chesed is letting him wrap
Who says he can daven before or after? There may be reasons why he didn’t or doesn’t daven before. Try and mthink of them on your own, and not expect others to spell things out for you.
shame on that manager
Yoshi W.
You’re a צדיק, but the store owner is 100% right. This boy should be wrapping תפילין before he comes to work. If he doesn’t end up wrapping תפילין that day, it’s not on the אחריות of the store owner. It’s the אחריות of whomever molested this kid!
Says a lot about this manager…and this message shows just how much daas torah you have.
The Gemara has a specific shortened SE for a worker who’s on the clock. Can’t force it on the employer.
That being said, obviously there’s basic courtesy & Seichal
You may be right if the manager was, in fact, the owner. But most managers are employees themselves, and permitting a paid break outside of the parameters set by the owner is a real shaila of gezel.
Why would you say your last line?! According to a rosh yeshiva in E”Y who has a yeshiva for bochurim having a hard time, there are many different reasons a bochur can be be going through difficulties, and definitely no individual reason. It is wrong for you to speak like that – and terrorize the frum community.
LOL it actually gave me a good laugh and you know what if you cant handle a bit of humor against someone whos not frum dont start calling it terrorizing the frum community! and btw he has a good point because that happens to be the case many times even if you know some unnamed rosh yeshiva who is in EY and says otherwise!
LOL?! What gave you a good laugh?! Discussing not-nice things and horrific accusations against frum Yidden makes you laugh?! It’s humor?! What type of humor is that?! Do you realize how many people will take it seriously?! Also who’s the not frum person you refer you, I’m confused.
The R”Y is not “unnamed”, he was here in America, R”Ys in E”Y consult with him, and he certainly knows more than what you concluded.
Can there possibly be any issue ever? Possibly. But for people to just throw that around like it’s some joke, terrible. THAT IN ITSELF leads to problems – that people can just throw it around like it’s everyday conversation. Makes it seems that it’s nothing more than a parking ticket or speeding that “happens”, and “don’t worry so much”.
I’m relieved to hear that you think what he said was mainly a joke and not too serious, but I personally do not like such jokes.
If you’re that dedicated, maybe offer to pay the employer for the time that his wrapping takes.
Ask the boy when he gets his break and offer to meet him then.
But don’t walk in with your good intentions on “Yener’s Chashbon.”
We aren’t talking about a 40 minute shachris. Every employee should be able to take a 2 minute break. Basic decency.
As I said, find out when his break is, and assist him then. See? We agree.
Why do you assume he gets a break?
Everybody is here judging the store owner. How do we know what was going on in the Store when this transpired . perhaps it wasn’t just a matter of it will take a few minutes. Maybe they were backlog of orders or things that had to be handled right then, maybe they were short staffed there could be numerous reasons why he said no why don’t we give the owner the benefit of the doubt?
As a Frum boss, he should find a way to assist with the young mans struggles. There’s a reason he’s working in thisplace, and not in yeshiva.
Yes, I’m not saying anything about when he should put on tefillin – there’s good talk about that here, but I think it is a very good thing for store owners to give a little shiur every day – and to consider that part of that program – part of what they’re getting paid for – that they should participate. Even a few-minute vort and story – and no phone allowed whatsoever during that time, is important. And the boys should be encouraged to say a vort or story too.
There is a business owner who does that for married fellows, and he even encourages higher madreigos in various areas, and there are Daf Yomi shiurim in businesses, but even small vort – with undivided attention, is important and can go very far.
Thank you for that comment. I know of at least 3 businesses/companies right here in Brooklyn that do exactly as you suggest. I’m sure there are many more.
To the person who wrote as a frum boss he should find a way to assist the young man struggles. There’s a reason he’s working in this place is not in the yeshiva,
This is a super judgmental comment in my opinion and ridiculous, who said he’s struggling because he’s at a job . Did it ever occur to you that he’s learning life skills, and that is why he’s working there. Or because he knows he cannot sit and learn that he knows what he is capable of. There’s nothing wrong with a boy learning the value of a dollar and how to have a successful job. This is important life skills that everybody needs..
The best thing for a person to do is to go out and be matzliach and not to have the mindset of being reliant on somebody else taking care of your bills, etc. so I thought I say kudos to him that he has a job.
Yes, of course, but everyone wants to learn something each day (Torah), and it’s a very nice and good thing for the boss to be involved in that. Also, to shmuz a bit. There is nothing wrong with that, as long as the conversation goes pleasantly. It’s important. We Yidden don’t just do things for the money. And see my – and others’ – comments here.
What prompted you to ask if he wrapped? Was he not wearing a white shirt?
The same thing that prompted R’ Abadi to ask those boys in the bagel store years ago. Some people change lives while others just write cynical comments. I hope they find something to say at your levaya.
“He always wore a white shirt…”
YUP! Turns out being “JUDGEMENTAL” actually saved a yid a a bit of gehinom!
How about we focus on the chesed this Yid did. He sensed a need, and had the heart to help out, and you see the bochur went for it – he appreciated it.
I want to touch on something that no other negative or positive commentators did. Whether you agree or disagree, I’d like to commend the letter writer for a beautiful letter without any attacks. He didn’t judge , bash, ostracize, criticize and he ended with a Bracha. It’s written with an ayin tova, the same one he used to attempt a beautiful mitzvah.
I was once in a bagel store, about ten years ago, and started shmoozing with the twenty-year-old bochur working as the cashier (there was another section where you got the actual food). The conversation wasn’t about tefillin, he just had some frustrations he wanted to air, so I got into a conversation with him. When I began, I was the only one waiting to pay, so I felt it was OK to shmuz. I was totally transfixed on him. By the time we finished, after a few minutes, I noticed there was a line of about five people! I hadn’t even noticed them, but they waited patiently, as they saw he needed to air his feelings. That was a chesed on their part!
I appreciate the five thumbs up
if it’s the type of bachur that unfortunately would not put on otherwise…