By Dovid Fellerman. Are you feeling those Post Purim Blues? That empty feeling, that hollowness like we’ve lost something special, like something sacred has slipped from our hands?! Yeah, I know the feeling. It’s a bit dispiriting. All the new friendships that were fostered and the old ones strengthened. Tell me about it. Oh, to be back dancing on the dining room table at the seudah, while your wife looks on in horror trying to come to grips with the fact that a little alcohol has created a monster out of her husband. (Kallah teachers really have to start preparing them for the important things in life).
Remember those pangs of anticipation. Just hearing about Purim would send shivers down your spine. And then came the home stretch and the last minute running around for your wife to find those matching ingredients to complete the perfectly themed shaloch manos.
And last but not least, the arguments begin… are we schlepping to the in-laws in New York for the seudah or are we finally growing up and braving it ourselves? Like a friend of mine put it so eloquently: If the Bobbes and Zeides want to see my kids I’ll gladly come visit on Tu Bshvat, Sukkos, Pesach and even Tisha B’av but why must they mess with my Purim?!
And then Purim commences with all its glory and splendor…and the race against the clock begins.
We dash off to the Morahs, Rebbeim, neighbors, family and friends and before you know it the seudah is bearing down on you, a little alcohol and then it’s all over. All gone. Vanished like a thief in the night. And the next day hits us like Purim was just a pause on real life.
Purim is that one day that resonates above all others. It’s that special otherworldly day. For one day at least it was all about possibilities, dreams, hopes and aspirations. A day spent in the “Kings” courtyard bonding with Hashem. That amazing spiritual high amid glimpses of Godliness that we so inherently feel throughout Purim will be sorely missed by us all.
For those of us who have toiled to make that special day a milestone in our Divine relationship how can we at least temper the loss if we can’t actually recreate those feelings and emotions?
Every occurrence, event and phenomenon in life leaves it own unique imprint on us and with it comes the awesome power to transform us. Our choice is to awaken its potency or allow it to remain dormant inside of us. The avodah is to unmask it, embrace it and let it transform us. By cuddling and cradling those feelings and lessons learned we extend the power of that great day and mitigate its departure.
Some helpful Suggestions…
1- On Purim Hashem gave us a glimpse of his unconditional love for us. We’ve gotten a heavenly hug and our souls have been moved by the deep and intense love we’ve felt. How are we going to respond? Are we going to start including Him in our plans? Are we going to start spending quality time with Him? Let’s take all that positive energy and cultivate the most important relationship that we have.
2- Hopefully we’ve learned that talking to Hashem isn’t limited to a state of drunkenness. It behooves us to reexamine our daily “sober” tefillos and those conversations we have with G-d every single day. Dveikus BaHashem can be acquired at an “ordinary” mincha on a regular Tuesday afternoon or even with a simple conversation with G-d while driving in your car.
3- We’ve embraced friends and strangers alike swearing that we love them. Will this newfound love dissipate with the alcohol or will this have awakened the inner affection that we should show our other “family members?”
Purim is all about our total dependence upon Hashem. He showed us how he operates our world with such tender loving care and how madly in love He is with us.
Ok now deep breath. Inhale through your nose and exhale through your mouth. Relax; we’re in the “Best Hands” possible.
Best wishes for much continued happiness & success!