(A response from a reader to this article, posted on TLS) Thank you TLS for posting this article. Althought the article does not state anything statististics about anxiety and depression among youths in the frum community, this applies EQUALLY to the frum community as well. We live in a world where parents have never been faced with the challenges that their kids were faced with. A world where parents THINK they understand their kid’s problems yet that is impossible if the parent has never been in their child’s shoes. A world where we can never really know what your child is all about. A world full of falseness, shame, fear, pain. A world where there is so much distrust between teacher-student, parent-child, peer-peer, mentor-recipient, etc. A world where there were thousands campaigning to legalize toeivah marriages. A world where there is so much emotional, physical, and mental abuse. A world where children are afraid to tell their secrets. A world where parents are in denial about their children’s problems. A world where there is so much silent suffering. A world that is so judgemental. etc etc etc etc
As a result, we live in a world where the same children that are afraid to tell their secrets, turn to drugs in secret. The same children whose parents overlook their problems, overlook the drug problem that developes when they are teens. A world where the physical, emotional, mental abuse lead to anxiety, depressions=drugs. A world where there is so much silent suffering=anxiety, depression=drugs.
We as parents have an extremely crucial job in this world. We have to withstand the corruption, the pain, the awful harms that our children have to go thru.
What are you going to do for your child? What are you going to do to show you care? How are you going to be there for your child, when they see that life is just not fair for them? All because your child looks frum and looks like he/she has no issues, you never know what they carry around in their heart.