As a parent, you have likely been thinking about college for much longer than your teenager. It’s been something on their horizon for a while, but you have been wondering what will happen when they fly the nest for years now. The time passes faster than you think, and when they’re suddenly facing an imminent move from home to college, anxiety and fear can flare up all at once. When reality sinks in and you realize that they’ll be on their own for the first time, it’s natural to feel a sense of panic and even grief over “losing” them. But growing up is what they were born to do, and as a parent, you can continue to guide them through the next stage of their life. Here are three tips to bear in mind as you help your teen move to college and embrace adulthood.
Talk About the Challenges They May Face
Although you want your teen to start school with an optimistic view, it’s also scary for both of you. Any concerns you have about their well-being are matched by fears of their own. Freshmen have all sorts of anxiety about fitting in, making friends and adjusting to life outside of their parents’ home. Many experience homesickness that can trigger an adjustment disorder during the first year; this is completely normal, and helping them starts by asking how they’re feeling. Make sure you keep the conversation focused on them, though. It might be tempting to spill your own concerns, but this could only deter your teen from sharing their feelings. Share your own struggles with your partner or friends and focus on being there to reassure and acknowledge anything your child feels.
Give Them Resources
Beyond calling you when they have an emergency, what should your teenager do when they need to see a doctor or are struggling with their mental health? So many parents focus on their child’s immediate safety that they never teach them how to address more common needs. Some college students forgo proper healthcare altogether simply because they aren’t sure how to go about receiving it. Telehealth for college students allows your teen to access services anytime, anywhere. They can contact a doctor or licensed therapist and receive support and care directly from campus. Many schools are partnering with telehealth providers to improve student wellness. Let your teen know that this is also an option for them if they need care.
Help Them Feel Like an Adult
Some freshmen in college feel like little kids playing pretend, and this is a feeling that’s common among many young adults even after they’ve graduated and started a career. Becoming an adult is not something that takes place overnight despite the fact most people force the idea that turning 18 makes someone a full-fledged grown-up. Core skills that your teen needs to feel empowered are time management, money management, organization and self-care. Let your child know that any fears they have is normal and that no one expects them to figure everything out on their own. Instead, gently encourage them to start being more independent and accountable while still being able to turn to you for help.
